POV: Motherhood is about more than babies > MsAfropolitan

4551828076 b5801fe75d Motherhood is about more than babies 

Motherhood and the possibility of becoming pregnant is a major difference between women and men and yet, or perhaps therefore, it is also a concept that every Tom, Dick and Harry judges women by. We hear the accusations so often we are numb to them. Comments like; you aren’t “mom enough” if you don’t breastfeed your child until so and so age. But you are also an irresponsible mom if you do breastfeed them until so and so age. Or if you don’t breastfeed at all. Some (male) doctor has come up with a new fancy term, “Attachment Parenting”. Be warned, woman. Progressive mothers should sign up for this one!

And oh-my-god, like, you HAVE to give birth sans epidural and later feed your baby organic home grown mashed carrot mousse and wash its poo-drenched hand-knitted diapers every morning before doing your Asanas. That’s mom-cred right there. However, don’t start working too soon after childbirth. Mind you, too soon could be anything from a month to the rest of your life depending on who is doing the judging. Shame on you, if  you don’t do everything the way your mother-in-law did. Now your child will grow up to be dysfunctional. And if god forbid, something happens to your child, it is your fault okay? EVERYTHING is your fault. Bad, Bad Mom.

I wish two things. Firstly, that men would stop creating images and archetypes on appropriate motherhood. No more Freudian/virgin Mary-type fantasies, or denial of having such. “Defreudianize” your minds. Did you hear that? It’s possible. I know it is because I have the presence of such a man in my life. Secondly I wish that women (mothers or not) would think twice about judging other women’s mothering. Have your opinion on parenting by all means but unless a woman is abusing her child, stop, or at least be very careful about how you determine what is appropriate mother-behaviour. This judgemental attitude is damaging for women as a whole and it has been part of our social history for an unnecessarily long period.

The Motherhood instinct

And for christ’s sake don’t buy into this idea of mommy wars. Blackwomen, this is especially important. We can’t afford to be at no damn war with each other about mothering from home or going to work. In many African communities, a woman is made to feel worthless if she can’t have children. Let’s not contribute to this alienation either. I am not a mother, but I am not separate from motherhood. I menstruate once a month meaning there is a mechanism embedded within my normally human female body that symbolizes motherhood. I may have not felt the overwhelming urge to become a mother yet, nor do I think of having a baby as some intoxicatingly rosy bliss that would be the zenith of my life. But my reproductive system is not meaningless to me. Until my partner and I decide that we want a child, its cyclical activities and quotidian functions are a part of my woman experience. Motherhood is more than delivering babies, it is an instinct.

Of course the motherhood instinct becomes something more real when you have a child, but even women who remain childless until old age know what it means to be a mother. To love. To protect. To defend. To sacrifice. To be afraid. To be angry. To be vulnerable. To not be afforded the luxury of ambivalence towards the obstacles being put in the way of future daughters and sons.

Mother’s Day

Motherhood is a reciprocal act too. Sometimes I feel strongly how my mother and I are the same entity. Sometimes I am her mother. Sometimes I hear in her words a plea for me to protect her, to love her unconditionally. To do what a mother would do.

meandmymummy Motherhood is about more than babies 

My mother, if you read this (and you will, because I will send it to you), I want you to know that just as you are, you are the most wonderful person that I know. The strongest. The most loving. The funniest. My closest friend. You are the woman with the big heart who enabled me to become free, to find my voice. And then learn how to speak it. I’m still learning. I will never stop. Learning. Yet as the Yoruba saying goes, “this is not my voice, it is my mother’s VOICE”.

And in a similar way, aiti kultainen, mommy dearest, it is your mother’s voice and all our mothers’ voices. It is the suppressed voice of womanhood.

Mother, I am inspired by your wisdom and your balance. By how you have found your harmony despite the injustices that mothers suffer in this world. I am inspired by how, through me, you aimed to prove that love can transcend the world’s divisions. By how you did all you could to remove as many obstacles from my process to self-realization as you possibly could. By how you gave up so much for me. By how you empowered me. I am so moved and grateful.

As a little girl I was old for my age, you and dad say. A child-parent. I laugh it off but it’s true. I was not an unhappy child, quite the opposite, but childhood was a waste of time. That’s how I felt then, not now. I was restless. Philosophical.  I felt different. Now I am where I wanted to be then. I’m at a social, spiritual and psychological pinnacle where the voice and the listener are not separate. And it is the voice of you, of your mother, my father’s mother, and her grandmother, of all our mothers—it’s the voice that feels obliged.

Thank you, mother. Although this voice makes life a challenge, I am nothing without it.  If I stifled it I would be silencing you and all our mutual mothers who made us. I don’t think I’ll ever surrender to that, I need the guidance. I’m miles away from you, but this voice is wanting to wish you a more than well-deserved Mother’s Day.

 

Related links

Happy Mother’s Day To All The Women Who Made Me

Not Everyone Wants To Become A Parent

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MAMA: Motherhood Around the Globe

Women for Women International

“Dear Daughter…”: all the ways society hates little girls

 

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HISTORY: The Radical History of Mother’s Day > NationofChange

THE RADICAL HISTORY

OF MOTHER'S DAY

 

By Laura Kacere

There’s a good number of us who question holidays like Mother’s Day in which you spend more time feeding money into a system that exploits our love for our mothers than actually celebrating them.  It’s not unlike any other holiday in America in that its complete commercialization has stripped away so much of its genuine meaning, as well its history.  Mother’s Day is unique in its completely radical and totally feminist history, as much as it has been forgotten.

Mother’s Day began in America in 1870 when Julia Ward Howe wrote the Mother’s Day Proclamation. Written in response to the American Civil War and the Franco-Prussian War, her proclamation called on women to use their position as mothers to influence society in fighting for an end to all wars. She called for women to stand up against the unjust violence of war through their roles as wife and mother, to protest the futility of their sons killing other mothers’ sons.

Howe wrote:

Arise, then, women of this day!

Arise, all women who have hearts, Whether our baptism be of water or of tears!

Say firmly: "We will not have great questions decided by irrelevant agencies, Our husbands will not come to us, reeking with carnage, for caresses and applause. Our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn All that we have been able to teach them of charity, mercy, and patience. We, the women of one country, will be too tender of those of another country To allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs."

[Read the remainder of Howe's quote here

The holiday caught on years later when a West Virginia women’s group led by Anna Reeves Jarvis began promoting it as a way to reunite families after the Civil War.  After Jarvis’ death, her daughter began a campaign for the creation of an official Mother’s Day in honor of peace. Devoting much of her life to the cause, it wasn’t until 1914 when Woodrow Wilson signed it into national observance in 1914.

The holiday flourished, along with the flower industry.  The business journal, the Florists Review, actually admitted to its desire to exploit the holiday. Jarvis was strongly opposed to every aspect of the holiday’s commercialization, arrested for protesting the sale of flowers, and petitioning to stop the creation of a Mother’s Day postage stamp. 

Today we are in multiple wars that continue to claim the lives of thousands of sons and daughters.  We are also experiencing a still-rising commercialization of nearly every aspect of life; the exploitation of every possible human event and emotion at the benefit of corporations.

Let’s take this Mother’s Day to excuse ourselves from the pressure to consume and remember its radical roots – that mothers, or rather all women, in fact, all people, have a stake in war and a responsibility as American citizens to protest the incredible violence that so many fellow citizens, here and abroad, must suffer through. 

The thousands of civilian casualties in Afghanistan and Iraq as well as the devastating impact of post-traumatic stress disorder on our veterans are just the beginning of the terrible repercussion of war.  As we saw last week an announcement of an extension of the military occupation of Afghanistan, let this mother’s day be a day after Julia Ward Howe’s own heart as we stand up and say no to 12 more years of war.

ABOUT Laura Kacere

Laura Kacere is a political activist and radical feminist who seeks to dismantle imperialist heterosexist cisgendered patriarchy and make repro rights available to all. She is currently living in DC.

 

VIDEO: Happy Birthday Al Jarreau > Today in Black History

AL JARREAU
• May 12, 1940 Alwyn Lopez “Al” Jarreau, vocalist, was born in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. Jarreau earned his Bachelor of Science degree in psychology from Ripon College in 1962 and his master’s degree in vocational rehabilitation from the University of Iowa in 1964. In 1968, he decided to make music his primary occupation and began playing in clubs around Los Angeles, California. In 1975, Jarreau released his critically acclaimed debut album, “We Got By,” which brought him international fame. Over his career, Jarreau has released more than 50 albums, including “All Fly Home” (1978), “Breakin’ Away” (1981), “Heaven and Earth” (1992), and “Love Songs” (2008). Jarreau is a 12-time Grammy Award nominee, seven-time Grammy winner, and the only vocalist in history to win in three separate categories, jazz, pop, and R&B.

 

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Al Jarreau live in Hamburg, Germany, 1976 

 

AL JARREAU - vocals, TOM CANNING - keyboards

JEROME RIMSON- bass, NIGEL WILKINSON - drums

 

 

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PUB: Open to Worldwide Entries: The £7500 Jeremy Mogford Prize for Food and Drink (Short Story) 2013 > Writers Afrika

Open to Worldwide Entries:

The £7500

Jeremy Mogford Prize

for Food and Drink

(Short Story) 2013


Deadline: 1 October 2012

(Note: Applicants are invited from anywhere in the world and can be published or as yet unpublished.)

A major new £7,500 annual short story competition has been launched by the Sunday Times Oxford Literary Festival in association with Oxford Gastronomica.

The Jeremy Mogford Prize for Food and Drink Writing 2013 will be awarded at next year’s festival to the best short story on the theme of food and drink.

MogfordFood and drink has to be at the heart of the tale. The story could, for instance, be fiction or fact about a chance meeting over a drink, a life-changing conversation over dinner, or a relationship explored through food or drink. It could be crime or intrigue; in fact, any subject you like as long as it involves food and/or drink in some way.

The panel of judges will include Jeremy Mogford, owner of Oxford’s Old Parsonage and Old Bank hotels and Gee’s restaurant, Donald Sloan, co-founder and chair of Oxford Gastronomica and head of the Oxford School of Hospitality Management at Oxford Brookes University, and Pru Leith, the celebrated food writer and novelist.

The story should be up to 2500 words and must be written in English.

HOW TO ENTER

Your short story should be up to 2500 words in total in English and have a food and drink theme at its heart. Entries should be submitted by email as a Word document to the mogfordprize@oxfordliteraryfestival.org by October 1, 2012. The winning entry will be announced at the Sunday Times Oxford Literary Festival in March 2013. The winner will receive £7500.

Entrants should also supply their home address, email and telephone number, their age and profession.

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LITERATURE: For the love of Che: Aleida March’s new book on her life with Che « Repeating Islands

For the love of Che:

Aleida March’s new book

on her life with Che

This is an excerpt from Aleida March’s memoir, just published by Ocean Press. Please follow link below to original publication.

IT IS November 1958 and underground activist Aleida March, a school teacher, meets Argentinian revolutionary Che Guevara for the first time. Che is in Cuba, helping Fidel Castro overthrow the dictatorship of Fulgencio Batista. Aleida has now published the memoir she has written on his life with Che, Remembering Che: My Life with Che Guevara by Aleida March, published by Ocean Press, $24.95. Translated from the Spanish by Pilar Aguilera.

IT IS quite a daunting task to describe my personal experiences with a man who, well before he was my partner, was already recognised as a remarkable individual. The story begins with my first encounter with Commander Ernesto Che Guevara in the Escambray Mountains during the revolutionary war in Cuba.

Che, an Argentinian with an already well-deserved reputation, was the leader of the Eighth Column. I was active in the urban underground movement and was sent on a mission by local leaders of Castro’s July 26 Movement.

Our province was surrounded and closely monitored by repressive forces of the Batista dictatorship. My mission was to act as a courier, delivering money and documents to the rebels when they reached the Escambray Mountains. It was a dangerous mission and this was my first chance to have direct contact with the guerilla movement. On reaching the rebels’ camp, I found they were observing me as much as I observed them.

Some of the guerillas couldn’t figure me out at all, wondering what on earth I was doing there. This wasn’t particularly surprising because I hardly looked like a tough guerilla fighter. I was quite a pretty young woman, looking anything but a battle-ready combatant.

Some years had to pass before I learnt what Che had thought of our first encounter. In a letter he sent from the Congo in 1965, a letter full of nostalgia, he described how he felt torn between his role as a strictly disciplined revolutionary and as an ordinary man with emotional and other needs. He remembered me as a ”little blonde, slightly chubby teacher”. When he saw the marks left by the adhesive tape around my waist he ”felt an internal struggle between the (almost) irreproachable revolutionary and the other – the real one – overcome by shyness, while pretending to be the untouchable revolutionary.”

Fighting the good fight: Che Guevara and Aleida March in Santa Clara in December 1958.

 

[In 1958] Che had reached the foothills of the Escambray during October, heading the ”Ciro Redondo” Eighth Column.

He was now leading the rebel force invasion of central Cuba. I was like any other combatant following orders. I had no expectations beyond that. Of course, I had heard about the legendary exploits of Ernesto Che Guevara. Stories about him were related almost on a daily basis on the clandestine Radio Rebelde (the rebel radio station).

Batista’s government had labelled him a communist. ”Wanted” photos of him and Camilo Cienfuegos were posted around the streets of Santa Clara [my home town].

My journey climbing up the Escambray was most uncomfortable because, in order to avoid being robbed, I couldn’t tell anyone I was carrying money, which was taped to my torso. By nightfall we reached the guerilla commander’s camp. This was my first close encounter with the much admired troops of the Rebel Army.

Everyone was trying to get a look at the new faces, especially mine, as I was young and one of the few women to visit – a rare presence in the guerilla camp. As was to be expected, Che first met with the [senior leaders].

Finally it was my turn to meet Che. I was standing next to Marta Lugioyo, a lawyer and member of the movement, who had met Che on a previous visit. After being introduced to the commander, she took me aside and asked me what I had thought of him. I replied somewhat casually that I thought he wasn’t bad, and that I found his penetrating gaze rather intriguing. I saw him as an older man.

Marta, on the other hand, commented on his beautiful hands, something I had not noticed at the time, but did later on. After all, we were just two women meeting a rather attractive man.

When I had the opportunity to speak to Che, I told him I had come to deliver a package. The adhesive tape was still giving me terrible pain, and I asked him for help to remove it. So that was our first meeting.

I stayed in the camp for three or four days waiting to leave. I was constantly pestered by various guerillas trying to chat me up [but] I struck up friendships with some companeros who have remained dear friends throughout all these years.

My new challenge was to become a soldier, at least that was my intention. I planned to propose this to Che when we met to discuss my future. I met with him one evening and he proposed I stay on in the camp as a nurse. I responded bluntly that I thought my two years of clandestine work gave me the right to be incorporated into the guerilla unit.

He didn’t agree. Years later, Che confessed that, at the time, he thought I had been sent by the leadership of the movement in Las Villas (largely made up of right-wing people), to monitor him because of his reputation as a communist. That was why he was [initially] reluctant to let me join the guerilla unit.

SEVERAL days later, Aleida is in the town of El Pedrero still arguing that she be allowed to join Che’s guerilla unit as a combatant. The revolutionary war is about to enter its final stages.

One day, Che turned up in El Pedrero at around dawn, and from that moment our common story begins. I was sitting in the street holding my travel bag on my knees when Che passed by in a jeep and invited me to come along with him ”to shoot a few rounds”. Without a second thought, I accepted and jumped into his jeep. And that was it. In a way, I never again got out of that jeep.

After Che’s spontaneous invitation, there was no time to think about what this might mean on a personal level. I was committed to a cause I was confident would win …

Gradually, as the days passed, I became less in awe of Che’s ”reputation” and instead developed a tremendous admiration and respect for him. He was very intelligent and exuded a sense of security and confidence that made the troops he led feel supported even in difficult circumstances. He had no qualms in facing an enemy with vastly superior strength, and besides his incredible courage, the guerillas could count on a leader with an extraordinary sense of tactics and strategy. Events developed at hurricane speed. We became machines focused almost exclusively on combat. My admiration for Che transcended even the bounds of my growing romantic attachment to him.

After capturing Fomento, Che proposed we take Cabaiguan. So that is where we headed. From a farm just outside the town, we could see a camp of soldiers. A couple of scouts were sent off to check it out. We then continued our march into the town where we found no soldiers. We stayed in a tobacco factory on the edge of town; in preparing for a battle, we established our headquarters and radio communication base there. Che chose this tense moment to recite a poem to me. This was one of the most beautiful ways he knew to express himself.

I was standing in the doorway of the factory and suddenly, from behind, Che started to recite a poem I didn’t know.

Because I was chatting with others at the time, this was his way of attracting my attention. I suspected he wanted me to notice him, not as a leader or my superior but as a man.

As part of the guerilla unit, I slowly overcame any doubts that I could be a useful member of the troop. The focus of the war then shifted to Placetas, and we immediately transferred there.

At first, we stayed in a food supply store in that town, huddling between sacks of grain to protect ourselves from aircraft bombing raids. We made our way to Las Tullerias hotel, where, with remarkable energy, Che threw himself into preparing for what later became one of his biggest military feats, the battle of Santa Clara.

He gave me instructions to copy the passwords to be sent to Sinecio Torres in Manicaragua. From then on, I acted as Che’s personal assistant, which meant I was hardly engaged in any combat but was always at his side.

ON DECEMBER 28, the vastly outnumbered rebels are still fighting to take control of the city of Santa Clara. Che and Aleida have been back to the now-secured town of El Pedrero to attend a funeral and visit injured fighters and are heading back to Santa Clara.

At sunset, something most unexpected happened. I don’t know if it was because of the time of day, or because of a deep need he had, but for the first time Che spoke to me about his personal life. He told me about his marriage to Hilda Gadea (a Peruvian economist), and his daughter, Hildita. At the time I wasn’t sure if he had said Hildita was three or 13 years old. He told me that by the time he left Mexico he had already separated from Hilda. He told me of their many misunderstandings and, from the way that he spoke about her, I sensed he no longer loved her, or at least he wasn’t in love with her. … I can see myself in that car in the fading afternoon light, in the company of a man who is relating the story of his life to a fellow soldier. She, aware of what is going on around her, is looking out for the safety of her commander.

We had some most enjoyable times within the maelstrom of the war, and those moments brought us all closer together. They helped us get to know each other as we really were. Some of us were naive, others, very clever; we were all young and full of hope for a future victory. We took every chance to have fun.

I remember Che later wrote: ”At the risk of seeming ridiculous, let me say that the true revolutionary is guided by a great feeling of love. It is impossible to think of a genuine revolutionary lacking this quality.”

On the night of December 29, Che and I went out for a walk along the highway. He scrutinised everything and I took notes like a good assistant. He told me we had to locate a ”Caterpillar”, a bulldozer, in order to lift the railroad tracks to derail the dictator’s armoured train that was expected to arrive.

Che had a deep, guttural voice and because it was late at night he spoke in a whisper. I didn’t understand what he had said. I had no idea what a Caterpillar was – he used the word ”Caterpillar” in English – so I noted down what I thought he had said in Spanish: ”Catres, palas y pilas” [beds, shovels and batteries]. Realising I was confused, he asked to see what I had written. He jokingly remarked, ”A teacher, eh?” Years later, when I told our children this story, they enjoyed taunting me, chanting: ”Beds, shovels and batteries!”

At Minas del Frio in the Sierra Maestra Mountains.

 

BY JANUARY 1, 1959 Che’s troops had captured Santa Clara, Batista had fled Havana and Che and Aleida are making their way to the capital.

We made our first stop to refuel at dusk. I think this was in Los Arabos, but it might have been Coliseo.

It was a place I knew, having passed through there during my time in the clandestine struggle. But what I could never have imagined was that this place would become so special to me for the rest of my life. In that small, apparently insignificant town, Che first declared his love for me.

We found ourselves sitting alone in the vehicle. He suddenly turned to me and told me he had realised he loved me that day in Santa Clara. He said he was dreadfully afraid that something might happen to me.

I was exhausted and half-asleep, so I was hardly listening to what he was saying. I didn’t even take it very seriously, as I still saw him as much older than I was. He might have expected some kind of response from me, but at that moment I couldn’t utter a word – I was so tired. Also, I thought perhaps I hadn’t heard him correctly and I didn’t want a repeat of the ”Caterpillar” incident.

Looking back, I think Che didn’t exactly choose the best moment to declare his love, and I felt a bit upset later thinking he didn’t get the response he might have hoped for. But that was it. The others piled back into the jeep, and we were soon on our way again. But the ice had certainly been broken.

The couple with their children in March 1965 at their house in Havana before Che left for the Congo.

 

[Che and Aleida married on June 2, 1959. They had four children]

For the original report go to http://www.margaretrivermail.com.au/news/world/world/general/for-the-love-of-che/2537610.aspx?storypage=0

 

VIDEO: Short Action Drama "Cherry Waves" > Shadow and Act

'12 ABFF Preview:

Tracey Heggins is

A Streetfighter

in Short Action Drama

"Cherry Waves"

Festivals by Vanessa Martinez | May 11, 2012

Written and directed by Carey Williams, the short action drama Cherry Waves stars Tracey Heggins, George Jonson, Lulu Brud, Shaw Jones and Rhobye Wyatt.  Waves is described as "a story of love, loss, and finding oneself set against the world of underground street fighting."

Cherry Waves is part of HBO's short film competion we just announced, screening at this year's American Black Film Festival, which runs June 20-23 in South Beach, FL.

Here's the synopsis:

Cherry Waves is the story of Angie Adams, a deeply spiritual young girl. Blessed with an intense tolerance for pain, Angie has developed into a prolifically successful underground streetfighter. When posed with a life-changing decision, Angie must make sacrifices against her moral convictions for her loved ones, but will her sacrifice ultimately lead to her demise?

I had to look up the cast to see if this was really her; I certainly never expected Medicine For Melancholy's Tracey Heggins to embody such a street-fighting tough chick!

Watch the trailer below:

 

VIOLENCE: Study shows violence changes the DNA of children

Study shows violence

changes the DNA of children

 

By Donovan X. Ramsey

 

Nadashia Thomas, 6, a cousin of Derrion Albert, holds a sign beside a poster of Derrion Albert at Fenger High School in Chicago, Sept. 28, 2009. (AP Photo/Nam Y. Huh)

New research in the field of neuroscience has found that early childhood abuse can leave effects beyond life-long emotional scars: it can change a child's DNA. A new study reveals that changes to DNA that typically come with age are accelerated in the cases of children who witnessed violence.

In an upcoming article in Molecular Psychiatry, researchers at Duke University examined a phenomenon called telomere erosion in children.

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Telomeres are sequences on a chromosome that duplicate over the course of one's life; with every duplication, the telomere shortens. New technologies allow research scientists to examine the length of these DNA segments, and they have been implicated in everything from obesity to smoking and psychiatric disorders.

A review of the literature showed that adults who had experienced childhood adversity had shorter telomeres than others, prompting the Duke study. In a study of more than 2000 children from the ages of 5 to 10, it was found that telomere erosion was accelerated in relation to witnessing violence.

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Violence was defined in the study as "exposure to maternal domestic violence, frequent bullying victimization and physical maltreatment by an adult."

The Duke study was not the first to examine the lasting effects of violence on DNA. Previous literature examining the brains of suicide victims with a history of childhood abuse showed there were changes to the part of their brains that regulates stress. These changes were not found in suicide victims with no abuse history or individuals who died of other causes. Other research on the topic also showed that effects of early abuse could be genetically inherited from a mother to child.

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